Healthy Answers has told you about hot yoga, fizzy yoga, solo yoga, and Broga, now I’d like to tell you about Partner Yoga. If your love life has fallen to the wayside in your relationship because of certain conditions that often affect the sexual functioning of older men and women, Partner Yoga may be just the thing to reawaken intimacy in your relationship. Here’s what it’s all about…
Rekindle Intimacy with Partner Yoga
Sexual Wellness experts from Loyola University report that sexual dysfunction in “romantic health” can occur from either painful intercourse, erectile dysfunction, inability to have an orgasm or premature ejaculation that significantly affects intimacy with their partner. As a result, having less and less intimacy, couples start pulling away from each other physically. They also do less non-sexual touching, holding, or just being in the same room together. Left unaddressed, the growing “space” between couples can start to spell doom for the relationship.
Experts at Loyola University think they have just the remedy for you and your significant other to close that physical distance, and resentment, that may have developed because of lack of sexual intimacy. Their answer is learning how to physically, emotionally, reconnect to your love partner through doing Partner Yoga with each other.
Partner Yoga is, as its practitioners/teachers explain, the direct path to what practicing Yoga is all about – spiritual union. Practicing yoga alone allows you to go deeper into your consciousness and experience union with yourself. Partner Yoga deepens self-union by adding your love partner to the equation. It’s designed, through its movements, to work on emotions and internal conflicts you may have within yourself, and with your partner, to create a better relationship with each other.
Partner Yoga involves you and your partner using compassion and creativity through movement and touch to create a deeper sense of trust. It gets “distanced” couples to re-enter each other’s physical space again, learning to touch again in non-sexual ways and get reacquainted with physical closeness. In Partner Yoga, you perform mutually beneficial postures, massage, and breathing exercises, to relax and dispel tension from relationship resentments, and learn to have fun together again.
For example, there are postures called “Compassion”, “Creativity”, “Balance”, “Intimacy”, “Grounding”, “Silence”, “Surrender”, “Touch” and “Trust”. Their names indicate what goal the specific posture is to achieve within a relationship.
According to the experts at Loyola, when sexual intimacy goes AWOL in a relationship, from any number of the reasons mentioned earlier, distance and resentment can start taking the place of what once were loving, happy feelings. But Partner Yoga is just one of the means used in a Sexual Wellness clinic to reconnect you and your significant other on an emotional, physical level.
Attending a Sexual Wellness Clinic will also help you figure out what’s at the root of your sexual dysfunction with your significant other. Does it stem from your wife/lover feeling pain with sexual intercourse from dyspareunia that can accompany menopause? Does it stem from your husband/lover’s erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation? Does it stem from a physical illness causing lack of libido? In a Sexual Wellness clinic, you’ll work on your intimacy/relationship issues with counseling offered by gynecologists, urologists, psychologists, nurses, social workers, dietitians, and practicing Partner Yoga with certified yoga instructors.
Although Partner Yoga is taught as part of Loyola University’s Sexual Wellness Clinics, and many other similar workshops across the country, sexual dysfunction doesn’t have to be part of your relationship to get the intimacy building that Partner Yoga offers. All you have to do is be willing to start practicing it with your partner. There are many Partner Yoga workshops; week/weekend couples retreats, around the country and out of the country, as well as books and DVD’s where you can learn to practice it with each other in your own home.
Having a loving, intimate relationship in your older years is not only possible, it’s enjoyed by thousands of older couples regularly. I think Partner Yoga can be a good way to start to reconnect an ever-distant growing relationship and help you and your spouse/lover to open up about whatever intimacy problems may be causing resentment. Remember too, that sexual dysfunction stemming from any of the reasons mentioned above can most often be treated successfully with a variety of methods. Please address them with your doctor or nurse practitioner to take a step in the right direction of resolving them. It can re-open a world of happiness and contentment for you!
Mark Rosenberg, M.D.