With a slowly recovering economy, single, divorced, widowed Boomers are having less and less sex. The reason, they say, is they have very little social outlets for meeting potential hookups or relationship prospects. Many of them have lost their jobs so can no longer “single mingle” with their colleagues; many are underemployed now, making less money, so that looking for love in all the wrong, or right places like singles bars, gyms, etc has become too expensive.
That leaves online dating services like Our Time, E-Harmony, Match, which are not-so-cheap paid services. Then there are the free places like PlentyofFish but they may land you a cheapskate, or worse, a deadbeat, gigolo, or gold-digger looking to hook up with someone with more resources than they have.
A few years ago, AARP published their survey, “Sex, Romance and Relationships” which reported that older Americans are engaging in sex less often and enjoying it less as well. Experts have concluded that the downturn in the economy in 2008 started the sex drought in single Boomers as financial worries resulted in waning desires. When people are stressed out over the fear of losing a job, or having lost a job, maybe even healthcare and 401’s, stocks, the idea of searching for someone to connect with sexually takes low priority, if at all. On the other hand, in married people, a bad economy has had the opposite effect in some coupled Boomers, bringing them closer with more sex.
Yet, when Boomers do have sex, 12% of men report not using condoms along with about 1/3 of women. No wonder that sexually transmitted diseases, as well as Hepatitis C, are on the rise in over-50’s, and older, even those in nursing homes. Maybe the seeming abandon of social responsibility in sexual relations is a result of the lowered frequency of sexual encounters or maybe it may just part of Boomer psychology. Coming of age in the Sexual Revolution of the late 60’s did not include sexual responsibility as one of the selling points of free love.
Even though Boomers are engaging in less sex, they say, at the same time, more and more men over age 60 are reportedly taking “sexual enhancement” drugs like Viagra and Extenz. What are they using them for? Big name fashion magazines are now starting to market sexuality in older people featuring more and more “sexy Boomer” girls on their covers like Meryl Streep, Madonna, Andie McDowell, Diane Keaton, etc.
It’s odd, then, that the generation that seems to hold all the financial cards now – Boomers have more money than any generation out there – is blaming a slow economy on their barren sex lives. Maybe it really isn’t the Economy, after all. The same generation who used to say “make love, not war”, are maybe now the “establishment” who are just too busy making money instead of love.